Miscarriage and Recurrent Miscarriage, When To ShareIf you've experienced a miscarriage, and you get pregnant again, you may hesitate to tell anyone about your pregnancy for fear that you may miscarry.
One very difficult situation is if you repeatedly miscarry. After a while, it's almost embarrassing to keep admitting your "failure". This article talks about the positive aspects of sharing your pregnancy and your loss. Read more:
The thing about miscarriage that I most feared was that it seemed so invisible. I hadn't really looked pregnant yet; the baby was just a tiny thing (the size of a raspberry, the books said). With the code of secrecy surrounding the "don't tell too early" story, there did seem to be a residual sense of shame about what was happening; as though it should be kept in the realm of women's maladies that happen "down there," in the dark, that we're not allowed to talk about. But I knew that something real had happened to me; it was not invisible.
If I had kept my pregnancy and miscarriage a secret, if I had bought the shame story, then I would not have been real. I can't even imagine having to fake it with the most important people in my life: to pretend that nothing was wrong, during one of the most heartbreaking experiences of my life. That, to me, seems much more traumatic than having to "untell" and then tell the people who love you that you could use a little love and support. And then let them give it.